You cannot find peace by avoiding life!
Hiya Person of my Laive, Welcome back to our writing channel.
I know, I know, I’m not always here consistently. And trust me, that bothers me more than it probably bothers you. I want to show up more often, I really do. But sometimes? Life just be life-ing. You know what I mean?
This phrase “Life is life-ing” — sounds funny until you realize it’s the most accurate way to describe when everything feels a bit too much, all at once.
Work. Relationships/Situationship. Deadlines. Emotions. Expectations.
Throw in a little spiritual fatigue, family tension, maybe a dash of heartbreak and boom, you’ve got the perfect storm.
The other day, I came across this quote that quietly punched me in the gut:
“You cannot find peace by avoiding life.” I paused. Reread it.
And I’ll be honest, it messed with me. Because that’s exactly what I’ve been trying to do.
Two Months ago, I hit what I can only describe as an emotional traffic jam. Everything was moving, but I was stuck. I had deadlines but no motivation, people reaching out but no energy to respond, ideas in my head but zero desire to write or create. So I disappeared quietly.
I stopped answering messages. I ghosted some group chats. I’d open WhatsApp, see the flood of unread messages, sigh, and close it right back. My social battery was not just low; it was buried six feet under. At first, it felt… peaceful. Like I was finally protecting my energy. Like I was setting boundaries.
But peace doesn’t live in avoidance.
What I thought was self-preservation slowly turned into numbness.
I told myself I was taking a break, but I wasn’t recharging, I was hiding.
I said I was resting, but in reality, I was retreating from everything that once made me feel alive.
Then one afternoon, my friend walked into the room, looked at me, and said,
"Instead of using this time to rest and actually recharge, you’re just all over the place doing nothing."
And I won’t lie, that hit hard. Because deep down, I knew they were right.
Nothing was aligning. Nothing was working. I felt off, scattered, and empty.
I’d binge-watch shows I didn’t even like. Scroll on Instagram for hours; laughing one moment, spiraling the next. I wasn’t present. I wasn’t healing. I was just… floating.
Suspended in a strange space between trying to escape life and hoping it would fix itself without me.
The thing about avoiding life is, it doesn’t stop life from happening. The bills still came. The work still piled up. And the emotions I tried so hard to push aside? Oh, they didn’t disappear. They circled back; louder, heavier, and more tangled than before.
Then one night, around 2 a.m., I woke up suddenly. I sat up in bed — drained, blank, in tears… just tired of being tired. And from somewhere deep inside, I whispered,
"God, please help me come back to myself."
"Show me mercy. Help me."
That was the beginning of peace.
Not the loud, dramatic kind with music swelling in the background.. But the slow, gentle, quiet kind. The kind that shows up when you finally say, “Okay, I’ll face it.” It looks like opening the blinds. Taking a real shower. Journaling a few messy, confused thoughts. Calling that one friend you’ve been avoiding. or whisper a prayer with no fancy words, just your raw, shaky truth.
Peace didn’t come before the mess. It came inside it. It came when I chose to step back into life.
Even though it was still chaotic. Even though nothing was perfect. Even though nothing was fixed. Even though I wasn’t “okay” yet, I was finally willing to try.
And maybe that’s what life is asking of us. Not perfection. Just presence. Not performance. Just participation.
So, if you’ve been hiding; emotionally, spiritually, socially — I get it.
Life can be loud. People can be demanding. Your soul might feel fragile right now.
But hear me:
you don’t have to do it all. You just have to start showing up again — one breath, one prayer, one little step at a time.
Peace isn’t found in the hiding.
Peace is found in the healing that happens when we dare to show up anyway.
So, let me ask you:
Have you ever tried to run away from life? What did that look like for you?
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With Love,
Fayvourebirth.